Romance is great. Sexuality is great. Attraction is great. But here is the key: if all of those are not built upon lasting friendship and respect for the person's character, something is wrong...
If you do not allow yourself to rush into falling for someone that you have not become friends with first, you will be more sure when you let yourself go to the next step. Certainly you might find yourself having all sorts of feelings. Enjoy them. But do not believe them. Only believe your experience of getting to know a person and seeing if you can share at a deep level. See if you find that he or she is a person is a person of the kind of character you would trust as a friend. And as important as all that, see if that person is a person that you would like spending time with if there were no romance at all.
Source: Page 118-9 of Boundaries in Dating
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